33. Maitri karuna muditopeksanam sukha duhkha punyapunya visayanam bhavanatas citta prasadanam.
By cultivating attitudes of friendliness toward the happy, compassion for the unhappy, delight in the virtuous and disregard toward the wicked, the mind-stuff retains its undisturbed calmness.
Whether you are interested in reaching samadhi or plan to ignore Yoga entirely, I would advise you to remember at least this one sutra. It will be very helpful to you in keeping a peaceful mind in your daily life. You may not have any great goal in your life, but just try to follow this one sutra very well and you will see its efficacy. In my own experience, this sutra became my guiding light to keep my mind serene always.
Who would not like serenity of mind always? Who would not like to be happy always? Everybody wants that. So Patanjali gives four keys: friendliness, compassion, delight and disregard. There are only four kinds of locks in the world. Keep these four keys always with you, and when you come across any one of these four locks, you will have the proper key to open it.
What are those four locks? Sukha, duhkha, punya and apunya—the happy people, unhappy people, the virtuous and the wicked. At any given moment, you can fit any person into one of these four categories.
When you see happy people, use the “friendliness” key. Why should Patanjali say this? Because even four thousand years ago there must have been people who were not happy at seeing others happy. It is still the same way. Suppose some people drive up in a big car, park in front of a huge palatial home and get out. Some other people are standing on the pavement in the hot sun getting tired. How many of those people will be happy? Not many. They will be saying, “See that big car? Those people are sucking the blood of the laborers.” We come across people like that; they are always jealous. When a person gets name, fame or high position, they try to criticize that person. “Oh, don’t you know, that person’s brother is so-and-so. Some strings must have been pulled.” They will never admit that the person might have gone up by his or her own merit. By that jealousy, you will not disturb the other person, but you disturb your own serenity. Those people simply got out of the car and walked into the house, but you are burning up inside. Instead, think, “Oh, such fortunate people. If everyone was like that how happy the world would be. May God bless everybody to have such comfort. I will also get that one day.” Make those people your friends. That response is missed in many cases, not only between individuals but even among nations. When some nation is prospering, the neighboring country is jealous of it and wants to ruin its economy. So we should always have the key of friendliness when we see happy people.
The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali by Sri Swami satchidananda
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You are able to recognize traits in common with another in order to forge love-based connections
A true soul virtue, friendliness is when you are able to genuinely open up your heart to others without any expectations or conditions involved. There is a clear indication that you are excited to meet new people and share in new experiences. Through friendliness, you will encounter, consciously or unconsciously, a common thread or a quality that you share. In a friendship, you are able to be vulnerable with someone, and learn and grow together. No one comes into your life by accident. Everyone has a lesson to teach you. The more you send forth the energy of friendliness, the more it continues to charge the atmosphere around you and any person you are in contact with, negating the possibility of creating a negative karmic tie. Friendliness tells everyone that you acknowledge them and share in the awareness that we are experiencing this Earth dimension together. We are all here to support and encourage each other. Start with a smile—it can change the world!
We need an element of together, oneness in our lives. It enriches and drenches our lives with pouring blessings from connection.
Talking a walk in the nature feels like you are breathing within the nature, together. Air through my skin, water splashing to my ears, hundreds of layers of blue and pink sky to my eyes, ocean breeze through my nose. All my senses tell me that I belong here and I’m it.
When you are reminded that we are all the same and we are all one. That connection inspires friendliness, compassion, and delight.
When I came back from my walk, the world felt more friendly than ever to me.